Premature Ejaculation
Article by Paul Douglass
In this article, we'll look at Premature Ejaculation (PE), what it is, and what you can do to help yourself to get over it. We'll talk about...
- What is premature ejaculation?
- How many men are affected by premature ejaculation?
- What is premature ejaculation also known as?
- Does premature ejaculation matter?
- Premature ejaculation and anxiety
- What causes premature ejaculation?
- Can hypnotherapy help with premature ejaculation?
What is premature ejaculation (PE)?
The term Premature Ejaculation has, over the years, been given many different and varied meanings....
- Premature Ejaculation is often referred to as being when the man ejaculates before his partner reaches orgasm (climaxes/comes/cums) most of the time
- Some definitions of Premature Ejaculation will define some sort of time constraint, for example, calling it Premature Ejaculation if the man reaches orgasm and ejaculates within two minutes of sex starting
- One thing that is common to most, if not all definitions of Premature Ejaculation, is that it is felt that the man has a lack of control over when he ejaculates (comes/cums), and often ejaculates before he wants to.
How many men are affected by premature ejaculation (PE)?
Because there are different meanings to Premature Ejaculation (PE) as mentioned above it's difficult to give exact numbers for how many men suffer from Premature Ejaculation, but estimates show that as many as 40% - 50% of men regularly experience Premature Ejaculation, with most men experiencing Premature Ejaculation at some time in their lives.
Premature Ejaculation is most common among men who are having sex for the first few times, and most men could experience Premature Ejaculation (PE) during high levels of sexual excitement or stimulation.
Premature Ejaculation can also be quite specific. A man, for example, may experience Premature Ejaculation during vaginal sex, but may be perfectly OK during masturbation for example.
What is premature ejaculation (PE) also known as?
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is sometimes knows as...
- Premature ejacultation
- PE
- Premature climax
- Premature orgasm
- Rapid orgasm
- Rapid ejaculation
- Premature climax
- Rapid climax
- Coming too soon (or cumming too soon)
- Loss of ejaculation control
- Uncontrolled male orgasm
Does premature ejaculation (PE) matter?
The simple answer that it matters if a man (or a couple) feels that Premature Ejaculation is having a negative effect on their sex lives.
One man may last for two minutes after entering their partner before orgasm and ejaculation and be perfectly satisfied with that, whereas another man might last ten minutes, or twenty minutes, and still feel that he has ejaculated (orgasmed) before he wanted to.
When defining Premature Ejaculation as where the man orgasms before their partner, this in no way takes account of how long the partner lasts before orgasm.
If someone’s partner lasts for over an hour, but they are happy to orgasm (ejaculate) within ten minutes, then that shouldn’t be considered as Premature Ejaculation, simply because in this case, the man is happy with his sexual performance, and is satisfied by the sex.
Premature ejaculation (PE) and anxiety
Some men will feel that having Premature Ejaculation somehow makes them ‘look bad’, or may make them feel ‘less of a man’, and this can of course make them feel anxious about it.
Often, when a man is anxious about Premature Ejaculation, the Premature Ejaculation can be made worse by the anxiety, or can develop into other problems, such as Impotence, Erectile Dysfunction, a lack of self esteem or self confidence, or even depression.
What causes premature ejaculation (PE)?
In my experience in treating men with Premature Ejaculation, the most common causes are psychological in nature, and often include:
- Unresolved psychological conflicts
- Performance Anxiety - that is to say, worrying about what a partner will think of their sexual performance
- Fear of being judged
- Anticipation of Premature Ejaculation happening
- Underlying anxiety or stress
- Worrying about past experiences
- Having grown up in an environment where sex was seen as ‘dirty’, or where sexuality was often suppressed or used to induce guilt
- (Sometimes, Premature Ejaculation can be caused by a physical cause such as an infection, so it’s always an idea to talk to your doctor).
Can hypnotherapy help with premature ejaculation (PE)?
Yes, the right kind of hypnotherapy can help greatly with Premature Ejaculation.
Something like suggestion hypnotherapy, which aims to cause a temporary lessening of symptoms, wouldn’t normally do very much for the Premature Ejaculation in the long term.
Where the Premature Ejaculation is caused by anxiety, stress, or an unresolved psychological conflict for example, it’s much better to use a far more effective form of hypnotherapy, known as ‘Pure’ Hypnoanalysis.
‘Pure’ Hypnoanalysis can help you to completely resolve these ‘underlying’ issues, so that rather than having a temporary respite from the Premature Ejaculation, you can resolve the problem once and for all.
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